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Online Dating Redux

There’s a recurring theme in the online dating world that involves a man who’s a construction engineer building roads, culverts, pipe pedestals, or may be closing a deal in Dubai. He’ll be back stateside in approximately three weeks. Invariably, he … Continue reading

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What’s Love Got to Do With It?

Never meant to return, which is not to say I didn’t have dreams about the redwoods with their fragrant pine needles or the Pacific Ocean. Sometimes you can appreciate a good thing and still have too much of it— Never considered that … Continue reading

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To Get a Dog, or Not

Down the stairs of my condominium and across Campus Drive I walk along Leona Canyon Open Space Preserve. In April and May, I canter past an expanse of wild radish and California golden poppies. Below there’s a culvert and a … Continue reading

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Shoot Me, I’m Online Dating (11)

I rendezvous with my online dates at either one of two places. The first is near Lake Merritt in Oakland, which provides ample time to sniff each other out and offers enough café choices should we wish to postpone our … Continue reading

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Shoot Me, I’m Online Dating (10)

I’m not proud about online dating. Why would I want to brag about trying to find loving companionship after searching through profiles and photographs and exchanging emails for much too long? The truth is that eight years ago I thought the kiss … Continue reading

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Shoot Me, I’m Online Dating (9)

One evening as I was minding my own email, an online dating site informed me that I had a message. I clicked a link from successfulman56 and read, “Hello beautiful.” Anyone who calls me beautiful gets my immediate attention. He went on, “You … Continue reading

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Shoot Me, I’m Dating Online (8)

Dates have come and gone bye-bye. Let me see. One friend didn’t appreciate my letting him pay for our first several dates, whereas I thought I was allowing him to exercise his male prerogative; then there was the guy who phoned … Continue reading

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Shoot Me, I’m Online Dating (7)

Help! Profile pictures confuse me. Many men  are wearing sunglasses, often standing in front of a car next to a large dog. Let’s think about this for a moment. Here is the first picture a potential dating friend sees. But what opens on the computer … Continue reading

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Shoot Me, I’m Online Dating (5)

A broken heart is an open heart, at least that’s what I hear. So here’s to all us online daters because after being disappointed and defeated, it takes courage to return to the playing field, and to announce to everyone … Continue reading

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Shoot Me, I’m Online Dating (3)

One day at a time. Right? As I waited in line to cross the San Francisco Bay Bridge from Oakland, the agent waved me past the tollbooth. “Keep going. She’s already paid for you,” and pointed to an older BMW … Continue reading

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